The I family is associated with the OPTIMISM emotion. This means everyone in the I family needs and appreciates BEING LIKED on some level. They are usually EXTROVERTED, PEOPLE ORIENTED, and FAST MOVING. Their goal is INTERACTION. This style’s orientation is ATTRACTING. They believe all people are commodities with market value.
The Rescuer pattern embraces others with their warmth, empathy, and understanding. They are long-term relationship builders. They are good listeners, and effective at problem solving. Rescuers use an indirect approach when dealing with others. They tend to put people first, by providing recognition to others, but this places them last. Uses consensus balanced with contention. Speaks fluently often in generalizations with broad brush-strokes. Left brain integrated.
Rescuers attribute less importance to task accomplishment and more to people interaction. They’re apt to be overly-tolerant with others thus it is difficult for them to say “no.” When in a position of authority and responsibility, Rescuers like to be appreciated, for their contribution. They are calm, sincere, and loyal, but can be manipulative. They are conflict avoiders who find it difficult to do and say the harder, more controversial things. They will mask bad feelings only to show frustration after much build-up.
The Rescuer will likely seek “stray dogs” in relationships. In other words, they “need” people to take care of. Their relationships are usually geared towards them getting the short end of the stick. They are “need” oriented and may be associated with unnecessary drama. They are easily taken advantage of. There are over accommodating and masked. May fear sexual encounters and are more alluring during coutship than in marriage.
The Rescuer seeks friendships that they can easily navigate. They will avoid bully styles or aggressive people. They are long-term relationship builders and will be the friend for life. Like a loyal dog, they are hard to get rid of.
Rescuers treat the family like a team. They are generous and like to be the “good” parent. They don’t like it when one child excludes another and they will mediate the child problems well. Oftentimes they try to be friends rather than parents and this can cause difficulty when bringing needed correction. They may want the other partner to do the correcting.
Rescuer styles like to assist and help others. They are nurses, social workers, assistants, and teachers. They bring stability and reliability to chaotic situations. They are generous caregivers who help others at the expense of self.
Rescuer habits include helping, assisting others with challenges, and enjoying meaningful conversation. They will not likely take an aggressive stand when necessary. They not stand up for themselves.
Rescuers don’t like conflict, and are less comfortable making difficult decisions that will negatively impact other people, especially those they care about. This causes them to sometimes be overly accommodating and far too trusting, causing them to neglect their own needs.
They would be well served to surround themselves with quality-focused people who provide structured processes. They have high standards and need to observe deadlines and get things done in a timely fashion. Their people skills make them a team player, and a valuable coach in some circumstances.