The Outlier family is associated with patterns that lay outside the national norm. This means everyone in the Outlier family will see less of themselves in those around them simply because you don’t see these styles as often as you see the 15 styles associated with the 4 families.
The True Believer pattern searches for positive signals and can be driven by a need to discover integrity in others. They are more extroverted in nature and are warm, relaxed, and friendly as a rule. They use more consensus than contention when decision-making and tend to be tactful, supportive, and safe. Extroverted and can start conversations easily. They are relaxed and look for the good in others and ignore the bad. Left brain analytical.
Under-Extended Pattern 234 F:
Assimilators require an organizational atmosphere and their approach is interactive. They fear being controversial and are preoccupied with getting along with other people. They are driven by a need to be realistic. They will promise prematurely to set things right; clouding progress in situations by their uncertainty and by second guessing themselves before someone else does. They will neglect to use their self-assertive qualities, waiting to be discovered; finding it difficult to bring their true self to the attention of others; worrying about the possibility that they may overshadow someone more deserving or more qualified than they are. They prefer to hold their strong beliefs inside fearing to upset others of differing persuasions. They will evade the hard issues, hesitating to express their own innovative ideas fearing they could be made fun of.
Assimilators may use silence as a weapon and will take constructive criticism as a personal affront. These styles may be overly possessive and at times can be judgmental. They will overlook the faults in others and themselves in an effort to believe the best of both worlds. This can lead to being taken advantage of. May become involved with activities only consistent with personal value system and see others outside that system as bad.
Assimilators desire a predictable, caring mate; occasionally show a lack of understanding of the mates needs by putting themselves first and the mate second. May use scolding, sarcasm, and criticism when in confrontational arguments. May be more alluring during courtship and less alluring in marriage. Need safe and predictable moments before spontaneity can begin.
Assimilators seek friendships that they can feel good about, often looking to relate to them by exaggerating their qualities and failing to see them objectively. They are always looking for qualities to believe in thus missing what actually is.
Assimilators can struggle with parenthood needing to be a friend more than a parent at times. May be overly possessive of mate and children while needing them to appear good in the eyes of others. Strong tendency to see the behaviors of their children as a reflection of their parenting ability.
Assimilator styles like to assist and help others. They are nurses, social workers, assistants, and teachers. They bring stability and reliability to chaotic situations. They are generous caregivers who help others at the expense of self.
Assimilators habits include helping, assisting others with challenges, and enjoying meaningful conversation. They will not likely take an aggressive stand when necessary. They may not stand up for themselves well and can have trouble saying “no.”
Assimilators don’t like conflict, and are less comfortable making difficult decisions that will negatively impact other people, especially those they care about. This causes them to sometimes be overly accommodating and trusting, causing them to oftentimes neglect their own needs.
They would be well served to surround themselves with more determined people who provide a stronger sense of urgency. They have high standards and need to observe deadlines and get things done in a timely fashion. Their people skills make them a team player, and a valuable coach in some circumstances.